“Forgiveness is above all a personal choice, a decision of the heart to go against the natural instinct to pay back evil with evil.” Pope John Paul II
I have writing about this topic in the past on the posting entitled “Why Must the Good Die Young?”. But I do feel it is a very important topic to cover once again. One of the greatest gifts God has giving us is the ability to forgive others for doing us wrong. As Pope John Paul II said, forgiveness is something we choice to do, it is of our free will, and it is a decision of the heart. Forgiveness helps to free us from any past hurts and injuries that we have received during our lives.
You may be asking yourself why forgiveness is so important. One reason is it releases you from all those pent up feelings you have towards the person did you wrong. Second, it helps to open your heart to feelings and allows you to grow as a person in a manner that is right with God. Thirdly, and I believe the most important one is Jesus tells us it’s important to forgive. He felt forgiveness was so important, He included it in the prayer He taught us to say. Jesus said:
This is how you are to pray:
Our Father in heaven,
Hallowed be your name,
Your kingdom come,
Your will be done,
On earth as it is in heaven.
Give us today our daily bread;
And forgive us our debts,
As we forgive our debtors;
And do not subject us to the final test,
But deliver us from the evil one.
Jesus gave us this prayer and included the words “And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors”. Jesus understood the importance of forgiving others. He understood that God looked favorably on those that forgave others that did them wrong. How do we know this? Jesus tells us:
If you forgive others their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your transgressions. – Matthew 6:13-15
Right after Jesus gave us one the most powerful prayers we can say, He talked about the need to forgive and why it is so important. I don’t think one can deny the importance Jesus placed on forgiveness.
Now I understand forgiveness is often time easier said than done. But it is something we need to work towards. There have been times in my life where I struggled to forgive someone. What I did was told God that I was struggling with this issue, I explained to Him that I wanted to forgive this individual(s), but at this moment in time I just didn’t feel I was able too. Usually after praying several days like this, God did give me the strength to forgive that individual(s) to an extent. Some of these instances, it took months for me to forgive this individual(s), but I finally did.
I want to share with you a short prayer I found on another website. I want to briefly mention this website in the next paragraph and that is where you can find a link to this website.
I forgive the people that made me feel disrespected and abused when I was younger.
I forgive them for thinking that their will was bigger than my right to a personal space and respect.
I forgive them for not acknowledging it, I forgive them for making me feel guilty about it.
I forgive everyone that I felt did not do something about it.
I forgive myself for not saying anything and replaying it in my head for years.
I forgive them, I forgive myself, I forgive the situation.
I forgive ALL OF IT.
The website I found this on another website is called Give Forgiveness. On their website there is a place to submit what you would like to ask forgiveness for as well as being able to post what you are forgiving someone else for. If you struggle with forgiveness, please at least visit this website and see what others have written.